It is possible to fail in many ways...while to succeed is possible only in one way.
- Aristotle
The road to success is lined with many tempting parking spaces.
- Traditional Proverb
If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.
- Anna Quindlen
It's nice to be the best, but not when being the best brings out the worst in you.
- Rodney Dangerfield
To succeed, you need to take that gut feeling in what you believe and act on it with all of your heart.
- Christy Borgeld
To freely bloom - that is my definition of success.
- Gerry Spence
Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.
- Henry David Thoreau
From success to failure is one step; from failure to success is a long road.
- Yiddish Proverb
(Natural Talent + Opportunity) Hard Work = Success
- Michael Johnson
Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value.
- Albert Einstein
You're on the road to success when you realize that failure is only a detour.
- Anonymous
I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.
- Thomas A. Edison
You haven't failed until you quit trying.
- Anonymous
Success is the proper utilization of failure.
- Anonymous
And in the end it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
- Abraham Lincoln
Honesty pays, but it doesn't seem to pay enough to suit some people.
- F.M. Hubbard
Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step
- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
- Eleanor Roosevelt
A coward gets scared and quits. A hero gets scared, but still goes on.
- Anonymous
To succeed... you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you.
- Tony Dorsett
A man of courage is also full of faith
- Cicero
The strongest among the weak is the one who doesn't forget his weaknesses.
- Danish Proverb
Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don't recognize them.
- Ann Landers
If a window of opportunity appears, don't pull down the shade.
- Tom Peters
Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises.
- Demosthenes
Luck is when opportunity knocks, and you answer.
- Anonymous
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, this time more wisely.
- Anonymous
Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Never, never, never give up.
- Winston Churchill
When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.
- Franklin D. Roosevelt
Never live in the past but always learn from it.
- Anonymous
To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
- David Viscott
It is love that makes the impossible possible.
- Indian Proverb
When anger rises, think of the consequences.
- Confucius
Never get angry. Never make a threat. Reason with people.
- Mario Puzo
Speak when you are angry - and you will make the best speech you'll ever regret.
- Laurence J. Peter
Anger is always more harmful than the insult that caused it.
- Chinese Proverb
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.
- Proverbs 29:11
You must motivate yourself EVERYDAY.
- Matthew Stasior
The best motivation always comes from within.
- Michael Johnson
Just because you make a mistake doesn’t mean you are a mistake.
- Georgette Mosbacher
The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
- Elbert Hubbard
There are no mistakes, save one: the failure to learn from a mistake.
- Robert Fripp
Be patient with your enemies and forgiving of your friends.
- Afghan Proverb
Bad friends prevent you from having good friends.
- Gabonese Proverb
A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.
- Walter Winchell
A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway.
- Fr. Jerome Cummings
Along with trustworthiness, consistency is the thing to look for when you surround yourself with people who can help you on your quest.
- Michael Johnson
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
The Company You Keep
It Is Better To Be Alone, Than In The Wrong Company. Tell me who your best friends are, & I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of 'friends' he chooses. The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate .. for the good & the bad.
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your "friends" will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. "Friends" that don't help you climb will want you to crawl. Your "friends" will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this:
· Never receive counsel from unproductive people.
· Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how.
Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person.
· Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.
· Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.
· Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.
-You can easily judge the character of a person
by how he treats those who can do nothing for him/her.-
-Blessed are those who give without remembering and take without forgetting.
-No accurate thinker will judge another person by that which the other person's enemies say about him.
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your "friends" will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. "Friends" that don't help you climb will want you to crawl. Your "friends" will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this:
· Never receive counsel from unproductive people.
· Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how.
Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person.
· Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.
· Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.
· Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.
-You can easily judge the character of a person
by how he treats those who can do nothing for him/her.-
-Blessed are those who give without remembering and take without forgetting.
-No accurate thinker will judge another person by that which the other person's enemies say about him.
Friday, September 18, 2009
African proverb
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self- esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share! a life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getawa! y time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail, cell phone or send a nice email.
Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation.
Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I.
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self- esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share! a life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getawa! y time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail, cell phone or send a nice email.
Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation.
Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
10 secrets to fulfilling relationships
1. The first secret? the power of THOUGHT.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires.
2. The second secret? the power of GIVING.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship, ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
3. The third secret? the power of RESPECT.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"
4. The fourth secret? the power of FRIENDSHIP.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
5. The fifth secret? the power of LETTING GO.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours; if it doesn't, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."
6. The sixth secret? the power of COMMUNICATION.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them! If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and ... why are you waiting?
7. The seventh secret? the power of COMMITMENT.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
8. The eighth secret? the power of PASSION.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
9. The ninth secret? the power of TOUCH.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
10. The tenth secret? the power of TRUST.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it, one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires.
2. The second secret? the power of GIVING.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship, ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
3. The third secret? the power of RESPECT.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself, "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"
4. The fourth secret? the power of FRIENDSHIP.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.
5. The fifth secret? the power of LETTING GO.
If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours; if it doesn't, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."
6. The sixth secret? the power of COMMUNICATION.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them! If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and ... why are you waiting?
7. The seventh secret? the power of COMMITMENT.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
8. The eighth secret? the power of PASSION.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.
9. The ninth secret? the power of TOUCH.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
10. The tenth secret? the power of TRUST.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it, one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
75 Relationship Rules Every Woman Should Know
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change "you" for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then
hell no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that
interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord. Don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not will to follow himself. No double standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. DEMAND RESPECT AND IF HE CAN'T GIVE IT, HE CAN'T HAVE YOU.
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom to 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the number 1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER GIVE MORE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAN YOU GET OUT OF IT.
55 Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict- believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it - but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you. You can't force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When its time to let go, let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. You can't make a whore into a housewife - or husband.
73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change "you" for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then
hell no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think, "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that
interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord. Don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not will to follow himself. No double standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. DEMAND RESPECT AND IF HE CAN'T GIVE IT, HE CAN'T HAVE YOU.
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom to 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the number 1 person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER GIVE MORE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAN YOU GET OUT OF IT.
55 Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict- believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it - but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you. You can't force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When its time to let go, let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. You can't make a whore into a housewife - or husband.
73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Monday, August 31, 2009
that double standard shit
So can anyone please explain this to me?...
Why is it that when a FEMALE sleeps around with all these guys, she is looked down on & is called every bad name in the book. But when a GUY fucks with all these girls, they get a pat on the back like it's the most rewarding thing to do? WTF? Really though, why don't we just make it simple & make it equal. In other words, if a girl is called a hoe, slut, bitch, etc. then guys are man whores. I really never understood this double standard shit & I must say that thinking about it begins to irritate me. I find it a complete turn off when guys brag about every girl they "pull". Seriously, I would just like to know what's so great about that? What is it?! Do they brag so they could show off how many holes they can stick their dick in? It frustrates me that guys think with the "wrong head" & their ego is all out there. Oh yeah... & the funny thing is, some guys think doing this makes them a MAN. hahahahah! You're kidding me right?! I hope who ever does this shit gets an STD.
YOU'RE JUST ASKING FOR IT YOU LIL' BITCHHH!
Okaayyy, I got that out of my system. I'll stop here before I get carried away with this subject.
Why is it that when a FEMALE sleeps around with all these guys, she is looked down on & is called every bad name in the book. But when a GUY fucks with all these girls, they get a pat on the back like it's the most rewarding thing to do? WTF? Really though, why don't we just make it simple & make it equal. In other words, if a girl is called a hoe, slut, bitch, etc. then guys are man whores. I really never understood this double standard shit & I must say that thinking about it begins to irritate me. I find it a complete turn off when guys brag about every girl they "pull". Seriously, I would just like to know what's so great about that? What is it?! Do they brag so they could show off how many holes they can stick their dick in? It frustrates me that guys think with the "wrong head" & their ego is all out there. Oh yeah... & the funny thing is, some guys think doing this makes them a MAN. hahahahah! You're kidding me right?! I hope who ever does this shit gets an STD.
YOU'RE JUST ASKING FOR IT YOU LIL' BITCHHH!
Okaayyy, I got that out of my system. I'll stop here before I get carried away with this subject.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
this "wall" that i have up
Just like everyone else, I've had my share of bad relationships. I've talked to other people after my 3 year relationship. But I never tried to pursue anything serious & always avoided getting too close to anyone. I got tired of all the bullshit I've dealt with in my past so now, I guess I am the way I am. Being in my on again off again 3 year relationship taught me a lot but also has made me scared to get into another one. I'm the type of person that when I care about someone, I put so much time & effort into that relationship. I've felt unappreciated & I asked myself: "What was my purpose in this relationship in the first place?" Because of this wall that I have up, I'll be the first to admit that I have pushed away a few good ones. I use to go with my feelings instead of my instincts. But now, it's the opposite. I use to say that if things fall into place & the feeling is right, I'll give that person a chance. It seems like I've completely gone against that. People know how to talk & a lot them will tell you what you want to hear just to get that one thing & I'm tired of it. Relationships go both ways. If it's only one person trying to make it work & the other person is not doing their part, what's the point? That was one of the major problems in this previous relationship I was in. I was doing all the work & he wasn't really making any kind of effort to do his part. He was the one who left me & now he wants to get back w/me. Which I don't want anymore. I hate this break up to make up shit. I'm getting to old for it. All these little head games, I'm not up for it. I'm not in high school anymore. I truly believe that "everything happens for a reason. if it doesn't kill you, it only makes you stronger" Despite all the bad shit I've experienced, I'm proud to say that I'm in this learning process. I know it took a while for me to learn but maybe I needed to be in all of it just to realize all of that now.
Without trying, I'll never know. I hope that I'll be able to get over my fear soon & just be okay with completely letting my guard down & letting that person show me what a REAL MAN should be. Trust me, I don't want to have this "wall" up like this for the rest of my life. No one deserves to suffer because of something that someone else did to me in my past. I know it's not fair & to those that I had something good with in my past & I pushed you away, I'm sorry.
Life goes on & when that man finally comes into my life & really shows me that they're not all the the same, maybe..just maybe, I'll give it a try
Without trying, I'll never know. I hope that I'll be able to get over my fear soon & just be okay with completely letting my guard down & letting that person show me what a REAL MAN should be. Trust me, I don't want to have this "wall" up like this for the rest of my life. No one deserves to suffer because of something that someone else did to me in my past. I know it's not fair & to those that I had something good with in my past & I pushed you away, I'm sorry.
Life goes on & when that man finally comes into my life & really shows me that they're not all the the same, maybe..just maybe, I'll give it a try
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
letting go.
To Let Go isn't to FORGET, not think about, or ignore. It doesn't leave feelings of Anger, Jealousy or Regret.
Letting Go isn't WINNING and isn't LOSING. It's not about PRIDE and it's not about How you Appear, and its not about Obsessing or Dwelling on the Past.
Letting Go isn't Blocking Memories or Thinking Sad Thoughts, and doesn't leave Emptiness, Hurt or Sadness. Its not giving in or giving up.
Letting Go isn't about Loss, and its not Defeat.
To Let Go is to Cherish Memories, but to overcome and to move on. It is having an Open Mind and Confidence in the Future.
Letting Go is Accepting, it is Learning and Experiencing and Growing.
To Let Go is to be Thankful for the Experiences that made you Laugh, made you Cry and made you Grow. It's all that you have, all that you had and all that you will soon gain.
Letting Go is having the Courage to Accept Change, and the Strength to Keep Moving.
Letting Go is Growing Up. It is Realizing that the Heart... can sometimes be the most Potent Remedy.
To Let Go is to Open a Door, to Clear a Path and to Set Yourself..... FREE
Letting Go isn't WINNING and isn't LOSING. It's not about PRIDE and it's not about How you Appear, and its not about Obsessing or Dwelling on the Past.
Letting Go isn't Blocking Memories or Thinking Sad Thoughts, and doesn't leave Emptiness, Hurt or Sadness. Its not giving in or giving up.
Letting Go isn't about Loss, and its not Defeat.
To Let Go is to Cherish Memories, but to overcome and to move on. It is having an Open Mind and Confidence in the Future.
Letting Go is Accepting, it is Learning and Experiencing and Growing.
To Let Go is to be Thankful for the Experiences that made you Laugh, made you Cry and made you Grow. It's all that you have, all that you had and all that you will soon gain.
Letting Go is having the Courage to Accept Change, and the Strength to Keep Moving.
Letting Go is Growing Up. It is Realizing that the Heart... can sometimes be the most Potent Remedy.
To Let Go is to Open a Door, to Clear a Path and to Set Yourself..... FREE
Sunday, August 23, 2009
work & school
A friend of mine started her own medical billing business & it looks like this may be my oportunity to put to use what I had gone to school for. She has had this business for a while now & if anything, she wants me to work from home. Only thing, I need my OWN computer. No one can have access to it but me because patient files will be stored in that computer & that kind of information is confidential & I have to abide by HIPPA regulations. When I saw her the other day, she told me that I can start anytime. Again, all I need is a computer that is set up with high speed internet & I'm good to go. Her main office right now is her home office & she also has an office in Daly City. I'm pretty excited about this. No one else will hire me due to my lack of experience. Most of the employers that are looking for Medical Billers are looking for at least 2-5 years of experience & unfortunately, I don't have any experience. I let her know that & she said that it's okay & she will give me experience. I'm in the process of looking for a computer. Possibly buying Cris old computer & he will set it up for me. THANKS BABE! He'll be a huge help 'cause he knows all about that computer stuff.
So anyway...due to low enrollment, I did not start school last Wednesday. I called the lady at Boston Reed & she told me that class was postponed. But no date yet though. She just told me to call back w/in a week. If I start that Medical Billing job, I may hold off on school for a while though. Its full time & I want to take this opportunity 'cause I know how hard it is to find a job in this field due to my lack of experience. I'm better off working w/my friend & getting experience from her so that later on, it would probably be easier for me to find a job if I decide to go somewhere else.
So anyway...due to low enrollment, I did not start school last Wednesday. I called the lady at Boston Reed & she told me that class was postponed. But no date yet though. She just told me to call back w/in a week. If I start that Medical Billing job, I may hold off on school for a while though. Its full time & I want to take this opportunity 'cause I know how hard it is to find a job in this field due to my lack of experience. I'm better off working w/my friend & getting experience from her so that later on, it would probably be easier for me to find a job if I decide to go somewhere else.
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
updating
I called Boston Reed to make sure there is still room to enroll for the medical admin. course. There is & thank god. But due to low enrollment of students, class won't be starting tomorrow night. The representative I spoke to earlier told me to call back w/in a week. I'm a little bummed out. I was actually excited to go back to school. I can wait though & hopefully the next time around, there will be more students. I have this bad feeling that there won't be enough again but if that's the case then I will look into another school.
Anyway, the ex boyfriend is still contacting me on & off. He's really irritating & I have no patience or energy to hear his bullshit. He tells me one thing & does another. I'm over it & it pisses me off 'cause he's been in & out of my life like it's nothing. He's the one who fucked up & he's the main reason why we're not together. He left in the first place & now he wants me back?! Are you seroius?! He's 26 years old & still has nothing going for himself. He doesn't know what he wants & that alone tells me he's definately not ready for a relationship. He has the nerve to ask me who I'm currently talking to? Why though? Why does it matter? He's constantly telling me that he still loves me & nothing will change that. Uh huh! Yeah right. I've heard it all before. He claims that he belongs with me & that I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him. But he's lied to me left & right. So now, I just think he's full'a shit. He's just all talk & I'm better off w/out him in my life. I put so much time & effort into this relationship & I stuck by his side even when he treated me like shit. Unfortunately, it wasn't enough. He has major issues that he has to deal with on his own & I just refuse to be a part of any of the drama that he brings upon himself. He knows he fucked up & he knows that sorry is not enough for me. He goes: "I know how you are. Sorry doesn't make up for anything." He's right about that. I don't think I've never been so hard on someone like I am with him. I know he's miserable but who's fault is that? No one can help him but himself. He keeps turning down the help so I don't know. I would like to think that he is going to change but the route he's on right now doesn't look good & he will never get anywhere if he doesn't start somewhere. His mom & his sister has shut up out. Which is pretty sad because those are the people he needs the most. But in a way, I can understand. It's called tough love. All the bad shit that he's done is finally hitting him hard. Karma's a bitch isn't it?! His cousin had told me that my ex had told him that he was going to turn himself in so I asked my ex about that & all he said was: "I don't know!" What a great answer. He's really lost & I don't know when he will be found & what it wil take for him to really stop the lifestyle that he's living. He was jumped like 3 weeks ago & I really thought that after that incident, he was going to stop. A week after that happened, I spoke with him & he told me that he wasn't trying to fuck up anymore. Bullshit! He knows how to manipulate people to get what he wants & he says things just to make himself look good & so that no one give him shit about it. Well at least me. He hates it when I give him shit about his bullshit & he thinks I'm talking shit. But I'm not, I'm just stating my facts & it's funny how he fucks up & can't take the heat. According to him, I was always a bitch for tellin' him like it is. He's just selfish & it seems like he is not thinking about the people he's hurting. There's a part of me that just doesn't give a fuck anymore & the other that still does. But one thing is that I won't get back with him. It's just too much & it's going to hurt all over again. I hate that back & forth shit. You either wanna be w/me or you don't.
This is to you...
I hope that some day you find the positive influence in your life that will help you get your life together. I'm sorry to say. But I'm not helping you anymore. You have hurt me a great deal & I never deserved any of the bullshit you put me through. You claimed that I was the only good thing in your life. But I find that hard to believe. I was good to you or at least tried my best to be. But obviosuly, that wasn't enough. Remember, you left me. Learn to deal with the consequences 'cause that's what you get for fuckin' up. I don't really care where we stand anymore. That doesn't matter. You don't care about us & yourself or the people around you.
Anyway, the ex boyfriend is still contacting me on & off. He's really irritating & I have no patience or energy to hear his bullshit. He tells me one thing & does another. I'm over it & it pisses me off 'cause he's been in & out of my life like it's nothing. He's the one who fucked up & he's the main reason why we're not together. He left in the first place & now he wants me back?! Are you seroius?! He's 26 years old & still has nothing going for himself. He doesn't know what he wants & that alone tells me he's definately not ready for a relationship. He has the nerve to ask me who I'm currently talking to? Why though? Why does it matter? He's constantly telling me that he still loves me & nothing will change that. Uh huh! Yeah right. I've heard it all before. He claims that he belongs with me & that I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him. But he's lied to me left & right. So now, I just think he's full'a shit. He's just all talk & I'm better off w/out him in my life. I put so much time & effort into this relationship & I stuck by his side even when he treated me like shit. Unfortunately, it wasn't enough. He has major issues that he has to deal with on his own & I just refuse to be a part of any of the drama that he brings upon himself. He knows he fucked up & he knows that sorry is not enough for me. He goes: "I know how you are. Sorry doesn't make up for anything." He's right about that. I don't think I've never been so hard on someone like I am with him. I know he's miserable but who's fault is that? No one can help him but himself. He keeps turning down the help so I don't know. I would like to think that he is going to change but the route he's on right now doesn't look good & he will never get anywhere if he doesn't start somewhere. His mom & his sister has shut up out. Which is pretty sad because those are the people he needs the most. But in a way, I can understand. It's called tough love. All the bad shit that he's done is finally hitting him hard. Karma's a bitch isn't it?! His cousin had told me that my ex had told him that he was going to turn himself in so I asked my ex about that & all he said was: "I don't know!" What a great answer. He's really lost & I don't know when he will be found & what it wil take for him to really stop the lifestyle that he's living. He was jumped like 3 weeks ago & I really thought that after that incident, he was going to stop. A week after that happened, I spoke with him & he told me that he wasn't trying to fuck up anymore. Bullshit! He knows how to manipulate people to get what he wants & he says things just to make himself look good & so that no one give him shit about it. Well at least me. He hates it when I give him shit about his bullshit & he thinks I'm talking shit. But I'm not, I'm just stating my facts & it's funny how he fucks up & can't take the heat. According to him, I was always a bitch for tellin' him like it is. He's just selfish & it seems like he is not thinking about the people he's hurting. There's a part of me that just doesn't give a fuck anymore & the other that still does. But one thing is that I won't get back with him. It's just too much & it's going to hurt all over again. I hate that back & forth shit. You either wanna be w/me or you don't.
This is to you...
I hope that some day you find the positive influence in your life that will help you get your life together. I'm sorry to say. But I'm not helping you anymore. You have hurt me a great deal & I never deserved any of the bullshit you put me through. You claimed that I was the only good thing in your life. But I find that hard to believe. I was good to you or at least tried my best to be. But obviosuly, that wasn't enough. Remember, you left me. Learn to deal with the consequences 'cause that's what you get for fuckin' up. I don't really care where we stand anymore. That doesn't matter. You don't care about us & yourself or the people around you.
Thursday, August 13, 2009
because of the budget cuts
Tuesday morning, I was contacted by a representative from Boston Reed college confirming that they received my application for the Medical Administrative Assistant course. I was then informed that due to the budget cuts, registration fee went to up to $250.00. Tuition now is $1,720. They are asking for $735.00 up front on the day that class starts which is next week on Wednesday, August 19 & another $735.00 on December 2, 2009. That's a lot all at once so I called Boston Reed today & asked the representative if there is any way that I could break down the payments. They have a payment plan called "TFC" (whatever that means..I think that's what it's called!). Basically, I would be paying $225.00 for registration to the class & then the next 9 months after that, I would be paying $179.04/month. That sounds pretty good & is so much easier then paying the $735.00 all at once. My mom was the one who bought this up to me. I seriously wouldn't have thought about it if she didn't mention anything. But man, I understand cause we all have that financial hardship nowadays. So yeah, after I was done asking my question, mother tells me to call them back again & ask if they coordinate with the unemployment department. From what I understand, they have a special program where the unemployment department will be with one to pay for your tuition with the money that you're getting from them. I'm only working part time so I was able to qualify for unemployment. So I called the representative back at Boston Reed & she said that they coordinate with unemployment. After speaking to the representative at Boston Reed, I then called the unemployment office & THANK GOD!, I was able to get through. The representative I spoke to took down my information & the school's information. According to her, I will be contacted with in 1-3 business days. Shoot, I hope so! I really want to go back to school. It's important to me. I'm getting older & I really want to try & get my life together. So anyway..yeah, I'll be waiting for their call. I just hope & pray that I do get approved. Wish me luck you guys! I think I need it! I'll update you guys right away once I receive any news.
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
For the ladies
This one's for the girl who you should take home to mom, but won't because it's easier to just fuck than work on a relationship; this is for the girls who have been led on by words and kisses and touches, all of which were either only true for the moment, or never real to begin with.
This is for the girls who have allowed a guy into their head and heart and bed only to discover that he's just not ready, he's just not looking to be tied down; this is for the girls who believe the excuses because it's easier to believe that it's not that they don't want you, it's that they don't want anyone.
This is for the girls who have had their hearts broken and their faith crushed by someone too selfish to have cared in the first place; this is for the nights spent dissecting every word and syllable and inflection in his speech. for the nights when you've returned home alone.
This is for the girls who have showed up party after party just to be in his presence, and finally realizing that it wasn't that he didn't want a relationship: it was that he didn't want you. This is for the nights his heart got broken by some dumb bitch or his grandfather is in the hospital or his best friend crashed his car and you held him, thinking that if you only comforted him just right, said the right words, or rubbed his back in the right way.. then perhaps he'd realize what it was that he already had.
This is for the night you realized that it would never happen, and the sunrise you saw the next morning after falling to sleep.
This is for the "I really like you, so let's still be friends" comment & this is for realizing that when you choose friends, you hardly choose those which make you cry yourself to sleep.
This is for the girls who have been used and abused, who have settled for what he was giving because at least he was giving something. This is for the stupidity of the nights we've believed that something was better than nothing.
This is for the hugs you've received from your girlfriends, for the nights they've reassured you that you are beautiful. and that you are truly worthy of a great guy; this is for the regret you've felt as you sat in the aftermath of your tears, knowing that that night the only companionship you'd have was with a pillow.
This is for the girls who have allowed a guy into their head and heart and bed only to discover that he's just not ready, he's just not looking to be tied down; this is for the girls who believe the excuses because it's easier to believe that it's not that they don't want you, it's that they don't want anyone.
This is for the girls who have had their hearts broken and their faith crushed by someone too selfish to have cared in the first place; this is for the nights spent dissecting every word and syllable and inflection in his speech. for the nights when you've returned home alone.
This is for the girls who have showed up party after party just to be in his presence, and finally realizing that it wasn't that he didn't want a relationship: it was that he didn't want you. This is for the nights his heart got broken by some dumb bitch or his grandfather is in the hospital or his best friend crashed his car and you held him, thinking that if you only comforted him just right, said the right words, or rubbed his back in the right way.. then perhaps he'd realize what it was that he already had.
This is for the night you realized that it would never happen, and the sunrise you saw the next morning after falling to sleep.
This is for the "I really like you, so let's still be friends" comment & this is for realizing that when you choose friends, you hardly choose those which make you cry yourself to sleep.
This is for the girls who have been used and abused, who have settled for what he was giving because at least he was giving something. This is for the stupidity of the nights we've believed that something was better than nothing.
This is for the hugs you've received from your girlfriends, for the nights they've reassured you that you are beautiful. and that you are truly worthy of a great guy; this is for the regret you've felt as you sat in the aftermath of your tears, knowing that that night the only companionship you'd have was with a pillow.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
A Tribute To The Nice Guys
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn't’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn't possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are JERKS. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn't’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn't possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are JERKS. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
Monday, August 10, 2009
registration for school
I finally mailed in my registration form & fee today for the Medical Administrative Assistant course which will take place at the Independence Adult Education Center. Boston Reed College (located in Napa, CA) is doing a collaboration with Independence Adult Ed. Class starts on Wednesday, August 19th. It's every Wednesday from 6pm-9pm & the great thing about it is that tuition is cheap. It's only $940 & there is a separate $100 registration fee. That hundred is coming out of my mom's account so I had to provide them with her account number & all that other stuff. I'm pretty excited only because this is what I've been wanting to go to school for. I wanted to do something long term & more legit. But I can't afford it. This is a 34 week class so I will be done by February 2010. Hopefully, just hopefully...I will be able to find a job then.
Friday, August 7, 2009
Jay's 24th birthday dinner at Everett and Jones in Oakland, CA
Those were the pictures taken from J's birthday dinner at this restaurant called Everett and Jones which is located in Oakland. Karen, babe, & I went. It was fun like always. I find it very refreshing everytime I'm around my cousins. My mind is at ease & I seriously forget about all my problems. It was a bonus that babe came out with us. He's such a good sport. I'm hope that he'll be around more. For the record, we're not together..at least not yet & he's not some random dude I just met either. We have some kinna history of 5 years. But yeah.. it's a long story so I'll get into that maybe later. So anyway...there was alot of us last night. But Karen & I were the only cousins who came out to celebrate with him from his dad's side. All his other cousins that were there are from his mom's side. I love being around the other side of the fam & just the way they're all so tight knit with all the cousins is great. I wish his dad's side was like that. But I don't think it will ever be.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Est. 2004
On the 12th of this month, it will be 1 month since we've "reunited" & started talking again. I must say that I haven't been this happy in so long. He's such a great person...good personality, fun to be around, always makes me laugh, easy to get along with, easy to talk to, sweet, & has something going for himself....what more could I ask for? I'm so proud of him for everything he has accomplished & I feel extremely lucky to have met such a good guy. I'm happy. Simple as that. Everytime I'm with him, I get that giddy feeling...you know, those butterflies. He makes me feel good inside & out. We've already established the fact that we care about eachother a lot but are in no rush to get into a relationship. Like I've said before, I hope something great comes out of this. We'll just wait & see. When the time is right & things fall into place, I'm more than willing to give it that chance. Good guys are hard to find & now that he's in front of me, I wanna hold on to him. BABY, YOU'RE THE BEST! I like how things are at the moment & I enjoy every moment I get to spend with him. =]
Btw, HAPPY 24TH BIRTHDAY TO THE BEST COUSIN EVERRR! love you jayyyy! =)
Btw, HAPPY 24TH BIRTHDAY TO THE BEST COUSIN EVERRR! love you jayyyy! =)
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
we have some sick people in this world today!
Former San Jose PE teacher sentenced to six month in jail for sex with student
By Marc Gomez
Posted 08/05/2009 09:20:10 AM PDT
source: http://www.mercurynews.com/
A former San Jose high school physical education who admitted to having a sexual relationship with a 17-year old student was sentenced today to six months in county jail, according to the Santa Clara County District Attorney's Office.
Rita Brum, 24, was also given three years' formal probation for her illicit relationship with a female student she met while working as a first-year teacher at Mount Pleasant High School in East San Jose. On June 11, Brum pleaded no contest to one count of sexual penetration of a person under 18 and accepted a court offer of six months in jail on June 11.
Her attorney Edward N. Aljouny said Brum has taken "full responsibility" for the relationship and believes the young woman received a just punishment.
"From the beginning, she did take responsibility," Aljouney said. "She was the adult. She is remorseful for what happened. It was a fair sentence."
According to the police reports, Brum me the 17-year old girl, a student at Mount Pleasant High, early in the 2007-08 school year. Their relationship grew in the following months as they spent time together on and off campus. The girl told police she and Brum kissed on campus a couple of times and eventually began a sexual relationship.
The relationship ended when the girl's mother found a love letter from Brum to her daughter. The mom became angry and confronted her daughter, who then detailed her relationship with Brum, according to police
The mother then confronted Brum at HP Pavilion and pulled her hair during an altercation, according to a police report. Officers at the arena responded to the incident and were told about the illicit relationship.
Another physical teacher at Mount Pleasant interviewed by police told investigators that Brum was an intern in the process of earning her teaching credentials at San Jose State University.
She described Brum to police as "supportive and encouraging" and said Brum was also an assistant soccer coach and was "very well liked"
By Marc Gomez
Posted 08/05/2009 09:20:10 AM PDT
source: http://www.mercurynews.com/
A former San Jose high school physical education who admitted to having a sexual relationship with a 17-year old student was sentenced today to six months in county jail, according to the Santa Clara County District Attorney's Office.
Rita Brum, 24, was also given three years' formal probation for her illicit relationship with a female student she met while working as a first-year teacher at Mount Pleasant High School in East San Jose. On June 11, Brum pleaded no contest to one count of sexual penetration of a person under 18 and accepted a court offer of six months in jail on June 11.
Her attorney Edward N. Aljouny said Brum has taken "full responsibility" for the relationship and believes the young woman received a just punishment.
"From the beginning, she did take responsibility," Aljouney said. "She was the adult. She is remorseful for what happened. It was a fair sentence."
According to the police reports, Brum me the 17-year old girl, a student at Mount Pleasant High, early in the 2007-08 school year. Their relationship grew in the following months as they spent time together on and off campus. The girl told police she and Brum kissed on campus a couple of times and eventually began a sexual relationship.
The relationship ended when the girl's mother found a love letter from Brum to her daughter. The mom became angry and confronted her daughter, who then detailed her relationship with Brum, according to police
The mother then confronted Brum at HP Pavilion and pulled her hair during an altercation, according to a police report. Officers at the arena responded to the incident and were told about the illicit relationship.
Another physical teacher at Mount Pleasant interviewed by police told investigators that Brum was an intern in the process of earning her teaching credentials at San Jose State University.
She described Brum to police as "supportive and encouraging" and said Brum was also an assistant soccer coach and was "very well liked"
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